In 2015 California became the first state to require public schools to teach students that "yes means yes" rather than "no means no." This "affirmative consent standard" teaches that both participants in sex need to actively, preferably verbally consent.
This year Maryland, Pennsylvania, Illinois, and Nevada have considered similar bills, though none have become law.
Supporters of teaching "yes means yes" argue that the old way of teaching "no means no" leaves too much ambiguity--that there are situations where a person might not be able to verbalize "no" or cannot physically struggle but does not wish to have sex. For example, the "fight, flight, or freeze" response may cause a victim to freeze rather than try to get out of the situation. Supporters maintain that "yes means yes" also makes it clear that a person cannot consent when they are incapacitated, for example from the use of drugs or alcohol.
By promoting a culture where active, clear and ongoing consent is sought by both partners, advocates hope that "yes means yes" education will help prevent rape and assault by providing a clear standard of when it's OK to keep going.
Opponents of the affirmative consent standard argue that it defines consent too narrowly. They believe it unjustly requires those accused of assault to prove their innocence by showing they received a clear signal of consent from their partner, rather than keeping to the standard of "innocent until proven guilty."
"They’re trying to change the nature of human affairs," said Harry Crouch, president of the National Coalition for Men.
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